How Stitch Fix gave me back my love of fashion

My bundle of Stitch Fix items, fresh out of the box and all wrapped up in tissue paper.
My pretty little bundle of clothes from Stitch Fix.


I’m a big fan of clothes and fashion, but I’ve grown to hate shopping. I used to love pawing through the endless rows of hangers, looking for just the right pair of jeans or for the perfect purple blouse. And shoes. Don’t even get me started on shoes.

Lately, though, it’s become so much of a challenge that I no longer enjoy shopping at the store. A typical shopping trip involves choosing a date ahead of time and going somewhere with my mom so she can help me find what I’m looking for. That means I need to actually know specifically what I’m looking for; browsing is largely a thing of the past. I usually ended up settling for something that was “good enough” because I was frustrated with the whole process.

I’d considered shopping for clothes online, but I was having trouble warming up to the idea. I like feeling the fabrics and trying things on, and I didn’t want to have to pay to ship any returns back.

Then I heard about Stitch Fix, and I knew immediately I wanted to try it out.

Stitch Fix is a subscription box for clothing and accessories. You fill out a style profile, sharing your sizes and selecting your preferred clothing style and price range. A stylist evaluates your choices with the help of algorithms and sends you five items you may like based on your style profile and any requests you may have made for certain items. Once your items arrive, you take a few days to try them on and decide if you want to keep them or not. If you do want to return something, you return it in a prepaid envelope, and then you check out online. You don’t even need to take the package to the post office, either, because you can arrange for your mail carrier to pick it up. Simple!

I’ve been using Stitch Fix for a few months now, and it’s going pretty well. The more Fixes you get, the more they improve, in theory, because you can provide feedback on all the items, whether you keep them or not.

Now that we got all that stuff out of the way, I want to show you what I got in my most recent Fix!

Liverpool Mira Skinny Jean- Black and Market & Spruce Cammy Deep V-Neck Ribbed Knit Top

Market & Spruce Cammy Deep V-Neck Ribbed Knit Top and Liverpool Mira Skinny Jean- Black
Market & Spruce Cammy Deep V-Neck Ribbed Knit Top and Liverpool Mira Skinny Jean- Black

I loved the top. It was so soft, and it was a great color, so I kept it. The jeans were too snug at the waist, but long enough, which was a small miracle.  Trying to find pants to fit a 35″ inseam is always a challenge, so I was disappointed they sent black jeans. I specifically say in my style profile NO SOLID BLACK. With three long-haired cats, it’s just not worth the struggle. So the pants went back.

Market & Spruce Lawford Knit Top

Cream tab-sleeve blouse with thin black horizontal stripes, paired with black pants.
Market & Spruce Lawford Knit Top

I just didn’t like this top. It didn’t feel like me, and I kept adjusting the neckline. I don’t love that style of neckline, anyway, and I didn’t like the color of the detail at the neckline. This one went back.

Just USA Anjuli Dark Wash Denim Jacket

Dark-wash denim jacket paired with cream v-neck tee and black jeans
Just USA Anjuli Dark Wash Denim Jacket

I liked the dark wash, and I had an old, out-of-style denim jacket I wanted to replace, so I kept this one.

41Hawthorn Rocco Faux Wrap Tank Dress

Navy faux-wrap tank dress
41Hawthorn Rocco Faux Wrap Tank Dress

I really liked this dress, but it was definitely made for a shorter person. The dress wasn’t necessarily too short, but it flared out too early on me with my height and made things look a little disproportionate. This photo doesn’t really show that, but trust me. I sadly sent it back.

I’m enjoying the convenience of great fashion at my doorstep. I love having someone else find things for me she thinks I’ll like, and I love how easy it is to return the things that don’t work out. If you want to give Stitch Fix a try, please use my referral link! I’ll get a $25 credit if you do.

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Living by the IVF calendar isn’t for the faint of heart

One of the most defining aspects of my entire life has been my low vision because it constantly affects my everyday  life. But being blindish is only one part of who I am as a whole; and for that reason, not every post will be about my being blindish. This is going to be one of those posts.

In recent years I’ve added a second big defining aspect to my life: infertility.

I’ll save the backstory for another time, but we’ve been struggling with infertility for several years. I’ve never kept this a secret, but I’ve never shouted it from the rooftops, either. It’s just part of my everyday life now, and, even after years of practice, I’m still learning how to deal with it.

In case you didn’t know, Jason and I recently went through an IVF cycle. I shared brief updates on Facebook to keep my friends and family informed, but once we had the embryo transfer in mid-December, I made it clear that I wouldn’t confirm whether it was successful for several weeks. We chose this way so we wouldn’t find ourselves in an awkward position, because if it worked we wouldn’t want to announce it too early, and if it failed, we wouldn’t want to discuss it for a bit and would want time to plan our next move.

I will tell you now it was unsuccessful.

What I did not share publicly about the IVF cycle was that we purchased a package from our fertility clinic that gives us up to three fresh IVF cycles and any subsequent frozen embryo transfers at one flat rate. Given my history with failed IVF cycles, we decided this was our best option. The catch is that you have to use the cycles within 15 months, which means moving forward at lightning-fast speeds. Three weeks after the failed IVF I began preparing for a frozen embryo transfer.

I  decided I wanted to move quickly with this because I had a health scare recently where the word “cancer” was tossed around a fair amount. It was benign, fortunately, but I was seriously ill regardless, even needing two intravenous iron infusions, and I was told by my doctor it’s very likely I will develop some type of reproductive cancer later on and to get a hysterectomy sometime within the next several years.

What I learned from this is that, while I want kids, waiting for it to happen is taking a toll on my health and so we decided to have this one last push and if it doesn’t work, then this particular path will end and we will move on. It feels strange to write it out like that, but I feel pretty good about the decision. By this time next year I will know what path I’ll be on by then, no linger standing at the fork in the road and waiting for something to happen.

Now that we’re back to the present, here is why all this is relevant: Our frozen embryo transfer is on Thursday, a little less than 34 hours from now. I’ve spent the past six weeks or so preparing for it. I’ve endured four weeks of injections, and have at least another two weeks of intramuscular injections. That means Jason jabs this long needle into a target area my nurse drew on my backside (I mean this literally; she drew circles on me using permanent marker) and it’s painful and makes me sore, so I hobble around like a little old lady. We’ve chosen to transfer four embryos, which is how many we currently have frozen.

I’m kind of freaking out about it right now.

Four embryos is A LOT. My doctor usually transfers one for someone my age and two for someone in her last few childbearing years. It makes me wonder a little bit what he sees in there to think four is a reasonable number, and it’s almost depressing if I think about it too much. And then I think of potentially having quadruplets and I feel my eyes bulge in my head just a smidge.

FOUR babies. Can you imagine? I try not to, but it happens every once in a while and I find myself picturing it with fascinated horror.

In case you’re unfamiliar with the details of an IVF cycle, here’s my calendar for this month. I had a similar one for January, and have a similar one for March. I also included the syringe for my intramuscular injection, you know, just for fun.

My February IVF calendar
My February IVF calendar

The calendar lists when to start and stop which  medications, and it includes dosing changes, which are highlighted, and appointments. I’ve had to cancel plans or forego opportunities so I could stick to my calendar. People often say it will worth it, but I really think that remains to be seen. Will I think that’s true if we come out the other side still child-free? I prefer the pragmatic approach: I’ll just do what I can, wait and see what happens, then handle it.